‘…My conduct will be faultless…in my house…’ Psalm 101:2 GNT
If you’re trying to blend ‘his’ and ‘her’ children into one big, happy family, a marriage counsellor offers some helpful insights you’d do well to adopt. What we call romantic bliss, our children often see as domestic upheaval. So realise it takes work to resolve your problems and build intimacy. Keep reading 1 Corinthians 13: the key to a strong family is ‘love’. You must practise it every day. Your kids take their cue from you, so in times of stress maintain a loving attitude. Remember that you had a choice, your children didn’t. They didn’t ask to be put in this situation, so be understanding and work to strengthen their sense of security during this difficult time of change. Don’t expect instant harmony. Be realistic about the challenges involved in bringing together two families. There’s no such thing as instant intimacy or total compatibility. It takes time to develop strong bonds and stabilise a family, so ‘easy does it’. Allow time to grieve past losses. Jesus said, ‘…those…who grieve…will find comfort!’ (Matthew 5:4 CEV) At the time of their parents’ second marriage many children have already lived in three different family units: their biological family, their single parent family, and now their new blended family. Plus, if your own biological children aren’t living with you, you may experience a personal sense of loss. Failure to understand this will result in anger and loneliness, so deal with the past before taking on the future.
SoulFood: 2 Kings 4:18–6:33, Mark 16, Ps 80:12–19, Pro 13:13–16
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